Sometimes I am amazed at how some people view literally everything through the lenses of sexism, racism, power relationships, etc. It must get so exhausting.
When you are in a position where you lack privilege, you don’t have any choice but to see racism, sexism, power relationships, etc. What gets exhausting is trying to point it out to people who have no reason to see it—because they are in no way disadvantaged by it and if they aren’t affected then it must not be real or affecting anyone else—and being consistently dismissed by the people who have the most power to change it.
A++, would reblog again
I actually don’t care whether anyone is offended. Offense is a vague, amorphous concept, and it is completely subjective. Anyone can claim to be deeply, mortally offended by anything, and it may very well be true; even if it’s not, there’s no way to dispute it. “You don’t really feel what you claim you feel,” is a line of argumentation that doesn’t get anyone anywhere.
What I care about is harm. What I ultimately said in this other argument was: The problem with sexist, racist, homophobic, transphobic, classist, ableist, etc., remarks and “jokes” is not that they’re offensive, but that by relying for their meaning on harmful cultural narratives about privileged and marginalized groups they reinforce those narratives, and the stronger those narratives are, the stronger the implicit biases with which people are indoctrinated are. That’s real harm, not just “offense.” (smadin)
email from me: hey mum what ingredients do you put in your pumpkin curry?
email from my mum: pumpkin
THANK YOU, MOTHER